For some of us, we may see grief as something we should deal with quickly -
resuming our life as soon as we return to work, seemingly over our loss. Others
are surprised by how long our grief lingers and how painful the process can be.
We not only have to cope with feelings but also accept the reality of the loss,
redefine our beliefs now in the face of that loss, readjust to the daily
realities of that loss, and decide the ways we will remember the person who
In a significant loss, every aspect of our life is now changed. We need to remember that grief is an uncertain and individual journey. However, a more realistic road map may make the journey with grief a little less frightening.
No step is more important than this. Appreciate, accept, and
allow your grief as a natural response to your loss. Let yourself feel your pain.
Suppressed grief doesn't go away. Grief is a mix of many uncomfortable
feelings. You may feel sad, angry, or filled with remorse, regret, or longing.
All these feelings are natural.
Empty out your feelings. Cry when you need to cry. Be angry when you feel
angry. Don't pretend to be stoic. The more you express your pain, the
more you free yourself from it.
Grief is a process that takes time. Healing from grief is not necessarily quick
and easy, but it is possible. Trust that you can and will heal from your loss.
The day will come when you can remember your loved one without pain.
You cannot dwell on your sorrow or your loss every waking moment. In the first
flush of grief, you may feel you cannot control the extent of your suffering.
But with friends and activities, you can form a plan that can be a lifeline.
(Texting: Hospice Foundation of America)
Children and adolescents also mourn. However, they often treat their grief a little differntly than adults do. Although sometimes it may seem they handle it easier, that's not the case. They too need the necessary attention to deal with their pain of loss. Children and Adolescents often find comfort by being with their friends or they may find support in a peer-groups to deal with their grief and pain of loss.
This booklet helps children with their feelings of grief and explains sensitively how the grandmother imagines the hereafter and how she can continue to be connected with her dear granddaughter. Author Sandra Ulrich, Illustrations Cécilia Ulrich. This project was supported by Roger Federer and advertised by Coop. Ideal for children between the ages of 6-11 years.
This video explains death and dying to children in a very natural way.
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